I knew a little girl who was cute and funny. She loved everyone around, sharing her time and her smiles. She comforted the lonely hearts and listened to the ones who were hurt. She helped with all she had, she gave all she could.
I used to meet her often. I was her confidant. She told me all her secrets. She shared her joys and pains with me. She loved me a lot, and always forgave me when I ignored her. I saw her beauty and wondered why no one else seemed able to see it. I asked God so many times, what did she do wrong to deserve that treatment? Why was he allowing to suffer all that pain?
She was strong and taught me love and forgiveness. Day after day, year after year, and as that little girl was growing, her eyes were becoming sad, her smile was fading away. Why did the light fade from her face? Where is that brightness I used to see sparkling in her eyes? Where was the comfort she used to give me?
That girl had changed a lot. She needed far more attention. I didn't have time for her. I didn't need her in my life anymore. I wanted a friend to make me happy, not a friend who just complained all the time.
The poor little thing wasn't really complaining. She didn't say a word, but looking at her made me feel her pain so strongly, and it hurt. It hurt a lot because I loved her and felt helpless. I didn't know how to calm her fears. I didn't know how to ease her pain. I wasn't happy myself, so I chose the easy way.
I chose to ignore her, and ignore her silent tears that were breaking my heart. I didn't answer when she called me. I didn't look in her eyes when we met. Seeing her was making me so angry. It was a mixture of sadness and guilt. I hated MYSELF for abandoning her, but I hated HER for being who she was.
Although I tried to avoid her ugly sad face, I couldn't help meeting with her, every time I looked in the mirror.
To Be continued....
Beautifully written. To write about self-denial in a story form is so creative.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why people bury their pain...is it because society tells us we are supposed to be happy. Happiness is wonderful but I don't think it's a 24/7 state of mind.
Thank you very much Margaret <3
DeleteI think that we bury our pain because it is so important to us that we are afraid of seeing others belittle it and make it sound as nothing important. It is our pain, we feel it and have to live with it and it hurts.
Touching post.... Beautiful words. Sometimes in life we do reach a stage where we are unable to face ourselves in the mirror daily as there are so many things weighing heavy on our conscious.
ReplyDeleteWaiting to read more...!
Thank you Me. You're right it is sometimes very difficult, almost impossible. Glad to know you liked it :)
DeleteBeautiful post!!! Thank you for sharing, hugs!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your visit and for the hugs <3 Much love <3
DeleteThis is a bone chilling post. So beautifully written friend xoxo
ReplyDeleteThank you Kimberly!!! You always have something nice to tell me :)
DeleteSo sad, yet so eloquently expressed. You are a beautiful person and writer, Nicole.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Martha. It's by looking at myself through your eyes, all of you, that I can now dare look at the mirror again
DeleteVery touching and honest. I look forward to reading more.
ReplyDeleteI love having you here Galen :)
DeleteWow - this really touched my heart. I am hanging on your last words, wanting more! Thank you for the beauty of your words!
ReplyDeleteI am a new follower from Galen's page (& mine - thx for visiting).
Hugs, GraceinaZ
Welcome Grace to my Blog. I'm so happy to have you here.
DeleteMuch love <3
You have the ability to paint very strong pictures with your words, dear Nicole ... this is a work of art.
ReplyDeletePat
Thank you Pat. I have a good teacher :)
DeleteNicely written.Will frequent here !!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Logic! Nice to connect with you :)
DeleteNikky, you have a way with words and with touching people's hearts.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kelly. That's a very nice compliment :)
DeleteCan't wait to hear the rest! Sounds eerily familiar...Everyone is right it is beautiful written by someone who understands the fragility of the human condition.
ReplyDeleteI'll tell you a secret Jodi: I still don't know the rest :)
DeleteI am creating it now. I don't mean in writing, because I usually write what has already happened. I am creating it in my life, and when I reach somewhere, i will tell about it :)
I'm looking forward to the day that she can look in that mirror and say "I love you" and truly feel it! That day is coming Nicole ♥ Sending Love and Light to you!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Linda. I will make it happen. i am challenging myself. The rest of the story is played now :)
DeleteHere's hoping that the girl in the mirror reunites with you...waiting for the follow up post.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your visit and comment. i have just joined your Blog now <3
Delete:-) I've written something like this to myself. Such a beautiful post, Nikky. Love yourself.You're worth it. And yes, I share your belief about the "First Best Friend" Big hugs to you. Love, Vidya
ReplyDeleteI would love to read what you wrote about that Vidya, would you give me the link?
DeleteThank you very much for your nice words. Much love <3
Such a beautiful writting Nikky! I used to know this little girl, now she seems to have left, which is good. One day you won't have to ignore her anymore, in the mirror you will only see love and a smile.
ReplyDeleteTake care dear.
I hoe so Marie. i am working on that. It can seem silly, but I miss her. I miss her smile :(
DeleteVery beautiful and thought provoking post.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Elizabeth :)
DeleteWow! That is some powerful writing. Now I have to wait for part 2? Well that's not fair!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you!!!
DeleteYes, i agree it's unfair as I am waiting too :)
Nicely laid out and carried thro with effective words.Hats off !!
ReplyDeleteThank you Logic :)
DeleteWow so beautiful and sad at the same time.....she reminds me of my little SAM (a 9 year old alter)....I wanna hug this little girl and make all the sadness go away..loving you ...As always...XOXOXOXO
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Bonnie.A Hug from someone who understand what real pain is, is the best treatment for the sadness one can feel <3 Than you and much much love <3
DeleteExcellent post Nikky. Keep writing! Your honesty is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Amy :)
DeleteBeautiful.
ReplyDeleteIs she "You" Nikky?
Love Love Love. Xxxx
Yes Kim, she is My refection in the mirror. Love you <3
DeleteNikky, So beautiful. You have a lovely way of expressing yourself. Your words are beautiful.
ReplyDeleteI am wondering, too--is this little girl you? Is she the happy little girl who grew sadder as life dealt her blow after blow?
I will look forward to your next post. Take care, dear one.
Tina
Thank you very much Tina :)
DeleteYour guess is right, that happy little girl is me. She grew sadder year after year, but her sadness was always well hid inside. In family and society in general, I was still the "funny" one who could make anyone laugh in a minute.
Love you <3
beautiful, the post and you! xo
ReplyDeleteThank you Katherine :) That is very nice :)
Deletebeautiful post.
ReplyDeleteThank you my friend <3
DeleteNikky -- It is amazing to watch you grow right in front of my eyes. You are an amazing thinker and writer. I will be happy to say "I knew her when..."
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Linda. It is so nice to say that. It gives me strength, honestly <3
DeleteVery beautiful Nikki and whoever that little girl was I'm sure she is very beautiful too!
ReplyDeleteThank you my friend. She is beautiful, but doesn't know it I think :)
DeleteVery intriguing ending. Nice how you build suspense into your story.
ReplyDeleteNikki, thank you so much for inquiring about me during my absence on my blog. I just had to take a little time off. I write about it in my recent post.
Take care friend.
Welcome back Myrna :)
DeleteI'm glad you liked it :)
Much love <3
A very brave and touching post, Nikky.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Laura <3 <3
DeleteYour visit and comment make me very happy <3
I just love the way this is written. It is beautiful. I think many of us have pushed that scary self away.
ReplyDeleteTrue Sandy, everyone pass by this phase at a certain time, but it shouldn't last long
DeletePowerful and poignant. But you know, it’s never too late to befriend that wounded inner child again and bring healing to her heart. That’s what we should spend the 2nd half of our life doing.
ReplyDeleteI agree Debra, and although I have always felt it is impossible and I will never be able to look at myself in the eyes and appreciate the person I see,I am learning now to do it
DeleteThis is a wonderful idea for a post.
ReplyDeleteI could talk hours with you about this.
I had a therapist once and she said picture yourself as a little girl GO NOW and tell me what there is to say all about her.
It was a great exercise. I enjoyed it so much.
I think you are right. It's a very good exercise because when telling the first things that come to my mind, I don't give space for the negativity that my mind has created about myself.
DeleteThank you for sharing :)
Wow. Didn't expect that segway. I look forward to part 2.
ReplyDeleteThank you Rachel :)
DeletePart two coming soon :)
Beautiful, Nikky. You really showed your heart here.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Alison :) Much love<3
DeleteOh. Oh Nikky, there's so much pain and truth and strength here. As always, I'm so glad you're writing.
ReplyDeleteThank you Emily. I never thought that writing would help me that much. I'm so happy I started :)
DeleteBeautifully chilling.. you've told a heart wrenching story. You should pull all of this into a memoir, Nicole.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Brenda. I really hope I can do that one day. I wish I can reach a certain stability that allows me to really commit into writing and I will.
DeleteAww it's so beautiful, Nikky... I want soo intrigued by part two.
ReplyDeleteHugs and love to you <3 God bless :-)
Thank you so much Irene!! I'm so glad you liked it <3
DeleteNikky, that was so touching. I believe most of us can relate to that kid. It took me many years to come face to face with her and accept her as she is. Since then she's not so needy, which makes it easier to be around her. I love how you wrote this. Beautiful!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Leah!! I think it's part of the process to reject oneself at a certain point, but it becomes a problem when it lasts long. I'm glad you made peace with her :)
DeleteWow, this is just so poignant, sad, yet lovely. love it!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your visit and nice words :)
DeleteSo so touching--a post so many women can relate to. A testament to the plight of a woman; who must wrestle with her perceived beauty to others, while also attempting to find the beauty within, even when it seems non-existent, or deeply buried beneath the expectations of others.
ReplyDeleteLove that you write so openly...keep doing it.
I'm so happy this post has touched you :)
DeleteYou said it right. Once we can look in the mirror and see the inner beauty tat shines through the face and the eyes, that is when we will really love ourselves <3
I didn't get to read this the first time but I'm happy that you chose the better part. You can do it :) Coraggio :*
ReplyDeleteThank you very much Melissa!!!! Love you <3
Deletefortunately or unfortunately I completely understand this post...I know real beauty is not only reflected in a mirror...beauty is measured in a persons heart.
ReplyDeleteI am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.
Thank you for your comment, and I'm sorry for my late reply. I am following you now :)
DeleteI identify... just. don't. believe. that. crap. Whatever negative stuff you tell yourself BELIEVE THE OPPOSITE.
ReplyDeleteI get to tell you this because I'm really saying it to myself!
You are an incredibly talented teller of words... you've communicated with such feeling. Somehow someway there has to be an answer that does not bring you physical and emotional pain... not like this!
Thank you very much Amy. I'm sorry you know those feelings I'm talking about because it is not nice things at all.
DeleteI don't feel now that there is something more beautiful that might happen to me, but I am trying. Much love <3
Love this! So touching and powerful. Thanks for sharing :)
ReplyDeletethank you very much Jordan!
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