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Monday, December 1, 2014

Gratitude Day 2:Thank you Dad,

Dear Dad,

I know I was never Daddy's girl. I have disappointed you often and your dreams for me were much bigger than what l have achieved in my life, but Daddy, I did what I believed was right for me. I have always been stubborn and "different". Then I changed. I started to listen more to what I should do, what I must believe and who I was supposed to be. I thought I was finally doing the right thing. It's only recently I discovered that being myself was the right thing. 
I have always wanted and needed your approval. Now I feel free. I can be myself with clear conscience and I love you just as much.


Today, Dad, without knowing what you did, you gave me the best gift in many many years without realising that you were doing so. Today after talking to me, you spoke to my sister. What you didn't know is that you were on speakerphone. You told her about this young woman who was murdered by her husband. You said that she was number 9 this year. It's the 9th announced crime in our area this year, but there are so many more women buried secretly in that country by their families who are too ashamed to tell the truth.

The gift you gave me today was that you then said: "When I heard about that latest crime I thanked God Nicole is now safe".

Thank you Dad. This means a lot to me. Love you.

Nikky

10 comments:

  1. WOW. WOW. WOW.
    Your daddy is wonderful and right.
    Nikky, I love you so much.
    I am so happy you left your abuser, or you might have been number 10.
    xxx kiss from MN.

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    1. Thank you Kim. It was really a nice moment to me. I mean it might seem obvious for others, that it's normal reaction for a father to feel grateful his daughter is safe, but it is very important to me since it was hard for him to accept my decision.

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  2. That's a beautiful letter to your dad, Nikky. His support is there for you. I'm so happy for you that you've found peace. You're an inspiration to many women.

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    1. Thank you very much Lisa. I think I can say now that things will get better and better day after day!

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  3. For many people, it makes all the difference to hear the words spoken out loud. I'm one of those people too, Nikki. Best wishes. xx

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    1. Thank you so much Narelle. It did make a big difference!

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  4. I'm glad you were validated. It means the world! I pray for these women. And know a lot, like you, do get out safe. We don't know why some do and some don't but we rejoice and we cry. It has nothing to do with worth, because every single one is worthy of living free from abuse. I hope we work on changing our world, getting rid of the fear and culture that allows these men to act so violently. It is up to us! Let's pick up the cross and save one more! (We don't suffer when we pick up the cross, we love.)

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    1. True Jodi. I wish I could save them all. I can try. I do pray for them and swend them love xoxoxo

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  5. Beautiful Nikky. I am very happy that you heard these words, his words. You are safe, you had the strenght to leave your abusive relationship. And I am sure it means the world to him.
    Thinking of you. Love from France

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    1. Thank you Marie. I t was very important to me to hear him say those words.

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