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Sunday, April 8, 2012

Happy Easter


HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE!!!!

Easter this year was not real fun, and I don't mean the previous years were particularly good, but  I just can't remember how they were. I guess that's a good sign!
Tension has been rising really fast lately at home, and the stress level was almost out of control on  Thursday afternoon.
On Friday, since it was a Holiday, we all stayed at home, including Mr. "I'm bored". Whenever he's home, he needs to create problems to anyone in order to distract himself, and since we all know that, we usually do our best to keep him busy.
On that same day, my winter guest, his mother, left to go home, to her village. For Mr."I'm bored" that was the perfect opportunity to 'let go" all of his anger and frustrations that he had tried very hard to keep quiet for all those months while she was around.
Plans were that we would join her on Saturday morning in the village. Those visits to the village have always been torture for me who loves silence and peace. When we gather there for any occasion, we are 23 persons to live and sleep in two rooms. I was there, both hands swollen, in pain, walking like a duck, and enjoying a perfect migraine.

My only remedy for difficult situations is to look at the "funny" part of  it, which I did. There were several situations this week-end where I had difficulty stopping myself laughing aloud, for example:

  • We had to go for a condolences visit. Everyone was fine on the way, talking and laughing. When we arrived to the house of the deceased woman (Mr. I'm bored's aunt), his mother distributed paper towels to us, and made sure I understood the instructions. She was to say the first words about her sister, and her daughters and I were to cry out loud asking her to stop making things harder on us. The men accompanying us were supposed to dry their "silent tears" while looking towards the wall (not to be noticed). As usual, these situations make me laugh instead, which is not that bad, as by looking down, hands on the face, they always think I'm crying :)
  • Since I didn't help in preparing the meal (which wasn't possible for me because of the pain in my hands), I had my second dose of his boredom medicine: he decided I was to be punished by not eating over the week-end.
  • I have a sister in Canada, and we might be able to visit her this summer. Mr. "I'm bored's"brother who last year promised my father to be "my protector". He caught part of a bullying session this week-end at the village, where Mr. "I'm bored" had his hand raised to hit me. His solution was to say:  "Please be careful, brother, don't go to Canada, or you would die in Jail" (the cousin who also lives there, spent two years in a Canadian jail for slapping his spouse). 
  • The funniest part was the battles at night! In that house,  there are four beds....and there are twenty three people....I was able to grab a sheet for myself, wrapping it tightly around me. I sat on a couch and tried to sleep. I was woken about 1.00 am by my daughter, shouting at her aunt.... who had been trying to steal the pillow which my child was gripping, tightly, like a treasure it truly was.

I pray you all had a wonderful Easter :)

Happy Easter!


34 comments:

  1. Not that my weekend was more fun that yours, but I am sorry that you had such a weekend as you describe! Keep holding your head high and keep being strong.... I admire you, not only for what you endure on a daily basis but also for how you share it with others. Much love and easter blessings to you my dear friend... Kelly

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    1. Kelly, You were one of the first to encourage me to write, and I remember the first time you told me to do it, I laughed thinking that it was impossible.
      Thank you so much for believing in me. Love you.

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  2. Sorry your weekend didn't turn out better. Mine was pleasant. Yesterday, we went to a friend's wedding and it was a beautiful, warm day, perfect weather for a wedding. It was also my son's birthday so we celebrated another year. Today, we went to a matinee. I pretty much took a break from writing, but now I'm here at the computer for a while, trying to catch up. I got your comment about your blog and that you're no longer using wordpress. Why is that? Doesn't it get confusing when you have two different blogs? Anyway, I'd noticed that, about your blog and started following this one, too, a few weeks ago. So I think I'm covered. Hope you have a better week!

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    1. Congratulations for your friend and Happy Birthday for your son!
      having two blogs is very confusing, but I had to keep the wordpress one because on some blogs I can only comment when logged in from my wordpress username. I think I found a solution today, and will only posts on wordpress a link to this Blog!

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  3. Wow! Its amazing, you are amazing to see the funny parts. You'll have the last laugh, Nikky, I can see it. I don't know when but you will.

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    1. I always see the funny parts Jodi, in everything. I never take life seriously anyway, and I don't expect anything out of it. Whether I cry or laugh, what is happening will happen. I have to laugh at least for my children's sake.

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  4. Nikky, I'm sorry you didn't have a happy weekend. But you showed great strength in getting through it, and you found funny things about it. I agree with Jodi in her comment above--you will have the last laugh. You are the strong one.

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    1. Thank you Tina. It wasn't a happy week-end, but after all, I would be surprised if it was otherwise. I have to laugh, I have no choice

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  5. I too had a weekend living in fear, the crime here is horendeous, there were break-ins the entire weekend, there is NO security on my property because Mr EX decided upon himself 7 years ago that it is ok to be in contempt of court and not adhere to the Divorce Contract. Well he is in for a surprised, he has been issued a summons before and has a case number, the fact that he ignored it is a bonus for me. Next summons going out this week. If he has to be behind bars till he does what he must do then so be it I have had enoungh of he CRAP his thinking he is in control and is the law. Love you nix. A woman was tied up and raped, another one was hit. all her stuff was taken. All you hear is gun shots, ppl running and here I sit alone after bringing up the children alone, while he is on holiday does not work that way Karma on the way and I will get him arrested he knows he is in contempt of court and here is south africa, he will have to or it is JAIL

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    1. Love you too Manda!!! Thank you very much for sharing your experiences with me. Much love to you <3

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  6. Sounds like an interesting weekend. I love that you can find humor in situations like these. I can, too.

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    1. when we have no mean of changing a situation, we'd better laugh at it!

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  7. Incredibly I did smile at some of the funny things you wrote about. But, I am sorry you live with an abusive man.

    I think it's my first visit to your blog. I'll visit more. I'd like to get to know you.

    Thank you so much for your words of condolence on Blogplicity.

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    1. Thank you very much Myrna for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. I only started writing maybe 40 days ago, and you did comment once on one of my first posts!
      I notice your comments on many blogs I follow, and I'm glad to know you too. Thanks again :)

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  8. Blessings to you Nikky, on what sounds like a painful journey.

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    1. Thank you Brenda. the love and support I am getting on the blog is the best remedy for the pain <3

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  9. Please be careful in your situation. I have a recommendation for a blog you should follow/read. http://myinnerchick.com/2012/04/07/caged-bird-writing-contest/

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    1. Thank you SO much Sandy!!! I do follow this blog and I love it. Kim is great!

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  10. Nikki,
    You Empower & Inspire me...

    Love flowing from Minnesota <3

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  11. What you are going through is beyond awful. Wishing you the strength....♥

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    1. Thank you Corinne <3
      I do need strength, today more than ever.

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  12. For you to see beyond everything and can laugh...just amazes and inspires me.
    If we didn't laugh...well...you know.
    I am Canadian. You can come visit me too. Our jails aren't as bad as you think they are. Really. My husband's second cousin killed someone and he has his own trailer on the jail property. Yea, he killed someone.

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    1. I have no choice else than to laugh about it. I'm sure Canadian jails are not that bad. I'm sure it's even better than living like a prisoner in one's own home.

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  13. Nikky, I'm sorry your Easter wasn't better, though you amaze and inspire me that you can find laughter in dark places. It is a gift. I hope you hands are healing. You write so beautifully I would hate to think writing caused you pain!

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    1. I hope you had a good Week-end for Easter and that your little princess enjoyed it.
      Typing is painful, but nothing would stop me from being online. It's the only thing I love doing. what is impossible is holding a pen!

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  14. Nikky, I am so happy that you used humor to get through these trying circumstances! Inspiring, my friend! I hope your hands on the mend! They need to be if you're to keep cranking out these great posts! Keep writing, lady! :)

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    1. Bella!!!! Thank you so much for passing by!!! You are number ONE in giving me big smiles in your posts!

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  15. Nicole, I heartily agree with Bella ... you need good hands ...
    GREAT posts, all of them ....
    MUCH love, dear Soulsister XXX

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    1. Thank you Pat!!!!!! Don't worry, if my hands get too tired to type, i have a nice secretary on my mind :)
      Love you <3

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  16. You amaze me Nikky, your ability to see the funny things in the middle of a terrible week-end and tragedy.
    I repeat myself dear but stay strong, if I could I would take you in my arms and give your a hug, just so you know you are never alone.
    Sending my love. xx

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    1. It took me a long time to be able to look at the funny part of the situation. I think its almost impossible until you reach the bottom, until you can't take anything more. I reached that point and gave up on life. Now that i'm still here, I just focus on what I can change and live with what I can't change

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